Category Archives: rant

“What’s going to happen at Christmas, an outbreak of leprosy?”


That’s a line from an old kids radio show that Jesse and I used to listen to as kids, an episode about a Thanksgiving gone horribly wrong.  It was also said a lot this past week and a half, as Buckman and I went through a series of insanely awful events.  As in, the hospitalization was not even the low point.

I’m not kidding.

(Quick background info.  Buckman hasn’t been able to find work here, and my company is floundering.  Between the long overdue paychecks and the expensive vet bills, my saving account won’t can’t cover me anymore, and so I gave notice to my apartment and told Jesse to clear the spare bedroom.  Buckman arranged to go back to DC.  Moving day was scheduled for last Sunday, and Buckman flies out tomorrow.)

I’ll start this tale of woe with the Weds before Thanksgiving.  I popped into my gyno’s office for what was supposed to be a painless procedure.  I left an hour later, in tears, minus a bit of my ladybits that I’d been rather attached to, which was taken from me without so much as a warning much less any sort of painkiller, by a device that resembled the lovechild of a fruit picker and a hole punch.  As a parting gift, I was also given a piece of paper which warned me to treat my vagina like a gift, as in Do Not Open Until Christmas.

Lovely.  Thanks.  You’re not my gyno anymore.

The next day, Thanksgiving, dawned bright and clear and Buckman puking his guts out.  By two in the afternoon he was delirious and the question was no longer “should I take him to the hospital?” it was, “how on earth am I going to carry him down three flights of stairs to the car?”

At one point the doctors where prepping him for surgery to remove his appendix, but eventually it was determined that he was suffering from gastroenteritis, which is essentially the experience of food poisoning, just with more pain.

I ate Thanksgiving dinner in the hospital cafeteria, and I’ll admit it.  I felt sorry for myself.  If only I’d known what I know now, I’d have been laughing like Buckman on painkillers.

After a failed attempt at Thanksgiving dinner for Buckman, in the form of cranberry juice from the nurses, I took him home.  He’d lost eight pounds that day.

Friday was a lovely bright spot in that week.  I left my dying cat and recovering Buckman to look after each other and watched my sweet Samantha marry Mickey, on a boat, in a full day extravaganza of food and dancing and food and did I mention food?  And more dancing.

Sometime in the night that night, Dulce yakked all over the bathroom rug.  Which was a delightful little surprise to find at three AM, when I joined her.  All of Sam’s carefully prepared goodies were seeking escape from my body, through any route possible.

Yes, it turns out gastroenteritis is contagious.

I crawled back to bed, only to find that Dulce was not going to be outdone in the sick department, and had thrown up there to.  I piled all the laundry by the door and slid in under another blanket.

I spent the next three days not packing and moving as planned, but meditating through the pain of stomach cramps, trying to hold down popsicles, and maintaining a quarantine of the apartment against wonderful helpful friends.

Come Monday, I could stand for short stretches of time, and I used this newfound power to drive Mau to the vet’s office to say goodbye.  I was too weak to dig his grave.   Buckman, Jesse and Bethany had to do it for me.

Did I mention my therapist just went on three weeks vacation?

Tuesday, now days past my moving date, I managed to box my things, and my wonderful friends all pitched in to help me pack.  In the middle of carrying down boxes, the fella I’ve been seeing, well …. he gave me reason to decide not to see him anymore.

We loaded up the car, and Angelica’s SUV.  And then her battery died.

I finally cracked.  I sobbed until Triple A showed up.  Somehow I managed to get through the rest of that night, get everything moved, and clean the apartment.  In hindsight I’m not even sure how.

Fast forward to today.  I’m alive.  The past few days have been a lot better because, well, they’d pretty much have to be.  Plus I can eat full meals now.  And I’m unpacked.  Rudolf enjoys playtime in the backyard, and Dulce’s starting to recover from the stress of the move.

I guess what I’m saying is, I think I’ll live.

Bug and I were discussing this.


You know what I think is total bull?  When a guy says, “I always tell my girlfriends how I prefer women without makeup.”

If you actually preferred women without makeup, you would date women who don’t wear it, and would never have to have that conversation.

I get that it’s a nice thing to say, but let’s get real.  Everyone wants to date somebody who takes a little time here and there to gussy up.

More coverage for this absurd woman in an absurd job.


Carrie Prejean is no martyr for the cause of traditional marriage.  She sparked a firestorm among the media for sure, but Trump was very clear that the pageant organization had no problem with her answer.  She was not in trouble for that by any means.  The pageant has always been a very traditional thing in it’s own way, and if you’re familiar with the answers of most of the girls, the words “active in my church” are as common as “world peace.”  Are they sincere in that, who knows, but it’s very much a part of the pageant.  To speak the religious rhetoric is more likely to help than hinder you, if you consider the long list of winners who profess traditional Christian values.

What WAS she in trouble for?  Two things.

One, that she wasn’t doing her job well.  Specifically that she’d made speaking contracts without consulting the pageant officials.  Yes, that on the surface that sounds like they’re holding her on a pretty tight lease, but remember that this girl was hired to do a JOB, to represent her state and the pageant organization.  If I took a day off work without consulting my boss and tons of people saw me, I’d expect to hear about it when I returned.  “Miss California” is a job with a lot of appearances and a very tight schedule.   I’m sure it really didn’t help that her job is PR and the press she was generating seemed to be a monologue, not a dialogue, which is not a what a role model for free speech is.  I’m sure it REALLY didn’t help that she bad-mouthed her employer, saying that the pageant officials told her not to talk about her faith.  Frankly, I call bullshit on that.  See first paragraph.  To claim that doesn’t even remotely make sense, unless you’re looking to make controversy.   (Naturally the pageant officials have denied this as well.)

Two, that she’d posed topless (no citation, I’ll let you google that on your own) after specifically signing paperwork to enter the competition stating that she had not.  She lied on her job application.

That’s why there was a review.  She’s no martyr for free speech or traditional marriage.  She’s a bad employee who had to have a little sit-down with HR.  If she doesn’t like it, she’s certainly free to quit, and if she’s willing to live with the contract she made, she’s certainly free to do that as well.    (Looks like TyTy’s gonna need a new bitchy loudmouth, so she’s got options here, and that’s what America is all about.)

As always, I have attempted to verify all my sources and quotes.  If you find a inaccuracy please contact me.