Write this down, Doc.


Yesterday, while speaking to my new general care doctor, we covered my medical history, and overall health.  How often I exercise, how much sleep I get a night, etc.  She noted that I’d repeated myself, twice mentioning my wonderful, supportive, wise and loving circle of friends.  I found myself bringing it up again to a specialist I saw later that day.

I wanted them to know that I know what I’m sure they already know.  That either as a reflection of, or because of, my overall health can at any point be gauged by how many close female friendships I have.


And later that night, a cocktail reception at the art museum, it occurred to me.  Why had I told my doctors this, and not my gal pals themselves?

I can never tell them too often what they mean they mean to me, and how rich and loved and alive they make me feel.  That no story of me, even something as mudane as a medical file, is complete without mention of them.  They are that powerful.


8 responses »

  1. I am so glad you have so many wonderful gals in your life. True female friends are priceless. I’m sure they feel the same way about you!

  2. I’m sorry you’re sad, but I must say… I’m insanely jealous of your life. It looks like you have the greatest friends ever. I think I would be happier if I had more (or any) real friends who could support me the way yours support you. Mine just seem to be disappearing as they move on in life and I’ve had to start my life all over. Count your blessings, pretty lady.

    P.S. I think you’d do amazing things in NYC.

  3. You know, I’ve learned that loss can be a launch.

    There’s a poem by Alice Walker that I always keep handy in my mind, and part of it goes like this –

    Depletion can be
    Just the thing.

    You are using
    Have used
    The old life
    The old way.

    Now will rush in
    The energetic,
    The flexible,
    The unmistakable
    That life is life
    Not mood.

    It reminds me that sometimes things leave us just to clear space for better things.
    Maybe that helps?

    Read lots of Alice Walker, it’s good for you, I promise.

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