I was pregnant concurrent (almost to the day) with another woman. It’s not so important who she is really, suffice it to say she’s a woman who did not have the opportunities, the partner and the insurance I had.
On a Monday, she had an abortion. The very next day, Tuesday, I had a miscarriage.
The Sunday before, I’d asked her if she wanted me to hang out with her after her procedure, but she said she’d rather be alone. It occurred to me that I was most likely the last person on earth she wanted to see at that point.
Before all this, we’d made plans to go shopping, and I’ve been a little sad that I haven’t heard from her since. That’s when it occurred to me that maybe she thought she was the last person I wanted to see.
But that’s just silly. I had no option but to lose my child, she felt she had no options. What’s the difference, really?
I think today would be a good day to call her, and reextend the invitation.