The only reason people say ….
25Jan08
… that rebound relationships never work is because it’s a title you only apply after you break up. If you live happily ever after with them, it never occurs to you to call them a rebound relationship.
Oh and there’s simply no such thing as timing. It’s a mythological scapegoat for whatever is really wrong with the relationship, favored because it blames no one.
I’m just sayin’.
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I am glad you think that also. I broke up with the girl I was suppose to marry and a month later met a woman. It was suppose to be casual, but we ended up falling madly and deeply in love. I didn’t know it felt like this!!!!! Comfort and passion all roled into one. Pssttt on “rebounds”.
See? Thanks for proving my point, and I’m so glad you two found each other.
I think it’s more of a “not ready to be in a new relationship” thing. I personally put a lot of stock into being emotionally divorced from one relationship before heading into a new one.
That said, I once went out with someone for a year, broke up with him, then one week later was with someone new. It wasn’t a rebound relationship at all. The old relationship was done for me, completely and totally, the day after it was officially over.
Exactly. Sometimes you know it’s over before it’s officially over, and have a chance to process it.
Yeah, I don’t believe in timing. I do believe in giving yourself time to heal though.
Nicely said.
There are no rules with love…don’t listen to anyone or anything and just feel.
Preach it, sista!
I believe in timing in the sense that sometimes Mr. Right-for-you can come along and if you’re not emotionally available at that time for whatever reason he’ll slip right by you undetected.
Which is why I don’t believe we all have ONE soul mate. I believe we have many. It’s just that timing sometimes has to be just right for the both of you to see it.
About rebounds.. tee hee. Mr. Twinkie was supposed to be my rebound. I’d just gotten out of a hearbreaking relationship so like Todd, I wasn’t expecting to get serious with him. In fact after I’d first met him I told my friend “G” that I’d found my future ex boyfriend. ooh lala.
Almost ten years later… I guess he’s my ten year rebound.
Hee! What a great story!
I met Scott a few months after I broke up with a boy who introduced me to his friends who were also Scott’s friends. They all thought I was dating him as a rebound from the other friend (And to make him jealous). Seven years later and I’m thinking, “Should’ve went with the rebound thing!” Hee. Just kidding. Seven years later and I’m really thinking that love is a very strange thing that can’t be labeled and applied by rules.
Cheers!
Can I just add that there are a couple of people I’ve love to rebound. Off a brick wall.
Hee. Yes, you may.